If you're thinking about having sex, think about the consequences. Think through your own values and those of your family.
Don't let anyone push you into anything
Guys...did you know if you have sex with a girl and she becomes pregnant you may be liable to pay child support for the next 18 years?
Always look at what you stand to gain against what you stand to lose...could you really handle the consequences of an STI or pregnancy - both can be life changing.
HOW DO YOU SAY "no" WITHOUT HURTING FEELINGS??? Take control of your life, be strong...kia kaha. Say it with your voice, your eyes and your body, and leave.
"Virginity is not something to be ashamed of...it's something to be proud of"
MYTHS ABOUT SEX:
Myth 1 - you can't get pregnant the first time. Yes you can! You can even get pregnant before you get your first period if you are sexually active.
Myth 2 - If he pulls out before he cums, she won't get pregnant. WRONG! Because the precum (the bit of fluid at the end of the penis when a guy gets an erection) already has sperm in it.
Myth 3 - Everyone else is doing it. WRONG AGAIN! It's normal, it's OK to wait until the time is right for you and you're old enough the handle the consequences. What about the possibility of STI's or pregnancy or the feelings that are involved??
Myth 4 - She can't get pregnant is she has her period. If sex is unprotected at any time she is at risk of getting pregnant. Sperm can live inside the female's body for up to seven days.
There is no hurry ... even if you may think so ... not everyone is doing it.
Contraception for young women – how to get it
Getting contraception is a pretty simple process.
If you are a young women and have decided to use contraception, first of all, good on you for taking control and protecting yourself.
What happens when you come to our clinic:
Will I see a nurse or a doctor?
Almost everyone who comes to us wanting contraception will be seen by one of our nurses. They will have quite a few questions to ask you but your health, personal safety and wellbeing are their biggest concern.
What kind of questions will the nurse ask me?
The nurse will welcome you to the clinic and ask how they can help you.
The questions you’ll be asked will cover three main areas:
The general health questions will ask:
Your answers to these questions can help determine which contraception will be best for you or any contraception you shouldn’t be using.
Sexual activity and safety
The nurse will ask some questions about your sexual activity such as:
The way you answer these questions will help the nurse decide if there’s a chance you could already be pregnant or if there’s any other help you need. The nurse will talk about sexual health checks and help you decide when you need to do this.
The nurse will also ask about your safety and will ask if you feel okay to say no to sexual activity, or if you are being pressured or bullied into doing things you don’t want to do.
I think I know what contraception I want to use – can I tell the nurse about it?
Most young women have an idea about the contraception they want to use. Often it’s something their friends are using or something they’ve seen in the media.
It is helpful for the nurse if you have an idea before your appointment of the kind of contraception you think would be best for you.
If you’re thinking about the pill, for instance, the nurse will ask if you think you’ll be able to remember to take it regularly – every day. If you think the pill is right for you, and the nurse believes it is a safe choice, the nurse can give you a packet of pills to try immediately.
There are lots of options other than the pill and the nurse will be able to help with all of these other methods.
For example, if you choose depo provera, an injection that you get every 12 weeks, the nurse will be able to give you your first injection at this appointment.
Or if you choose another option such as the implant or IUD the nurse will be able to give you some information to take home to read, and help you make the appointment to have your implant or IUD put in.
I’m under 16? Can I get contraception without my parent's consent?
The short answer is yes.
The long answer is that there’s a New Zealand law (the Contraception, Sterilisation and Abortion Act 1977) which allows people under the age of 16 to be given contraceptive information, services and prescriptions. The health professional, in this case the nurse (or doctor), must be sure you are able to make an informed decision. The information you gave when you answered the questions we talked about earlier will help the nurse do this.
The nurse will ask who you’ve talked to about your appointment and will encourage you to talk with a parent or another adult you trust, if you haven’t already.
Contraception is very important if you do not want to become pregnant. Our nurses will support you to get the best contraceptive for you.
Remember that condoms are still important to protect against infections.
How do I know that they won’t pass on my information? What about confidentiality?
Confidentiality is very important to us and we know it’s important to you. All our consultations are confidential but if the nurse thinks you’re at risk or that you’re putting someone else at risk, they’ll need to talk with someone else to get you some help. They will talk with you before they do this.
My partner wants to come to my appointment too. Is that ok?
It’s fine for your partner to come to the appointment with you. The nurse will see you alone for part of the appointment and then your partner will be able to come back into the room.
If you want to talk to a nurse about contraception and what is best for you, come into one of our clinics. You can book an appointment or visit during our drop-in times with no appointment.